Thanks so much for the mention on here!!! The wisdom of our resistance has been such a game changer for me for unshaming and recognizing that there’s always an important, information-filled reason why I’m not doing something, or why it feels hard. 🩵🩵🩵 Thanks for writing this wonderful piece.
Yes! I was in an ADHD hack reading frenzy this week, especially around budgeting. I can't believe a single one of those was written from inside ADHD. Not one of them could in any way be effective. Just take a regular mainstream shallow clock time corporate fake ra ra and insert some neuodivergent words and letters. I maybe should be sorry for being so cranky, but I need things to be able to work, and fast, and simply, and with multiple depth and power. You know, like our human minds are meant to work - wild, free, sparking, relaxed. Not domesticated.
Glad to be here. First time I don't feel alone with this in ages
I appreciate your reflection; I sometimes feel like I sound so cheesy when I say “just be kinder to yourself” and I’m so frustrated so often when things don’t work the way I want them to (simple, easy, quick, ready to move on to funner things). But then comments like yours remind me that there’s value in trying to figure out how to let our minds be more free and wild and sparking and relaxed.
Oh wow, I really needed to read this today. I feel constantly slapped with “you simply need to have more compassion for yourself” advice but find that particularly difficult in the depths of my ADHD. Thank you for these tangible ideas to show myself some more kindness 🧡
This is so wonderful to hear, Jessi! I’m glad you found it helpful! It’s still a work in progress for me, too, and probably always will be. One day at a time…
I've actually read your article now. Thanks for putting this together. I've actually been doing the what is it I need things this past week. ( It's quite the survival question, and the question itself took me a while to work out). I realised 2 things: I respond to other people's needs, and in the process grow myself, which in turn can feed others. And I need a team around me for support. Not in a take everything kind of way, but a bouncing ideas and workshopping way. Still the question persists, how to explain that, and work with it as a strategy.
I relate to the team support aspect and I’ve been thinking a lot about who naturally takes on which types of support roles in different contexts (and then how to ask for that support….!)
For me at the moment it's this search for clarity with what I have to offer. This clarity feels like a living idea, one who won't be rushed. Which feels pleasantly snobby at first - all in my own good time, talk to the paw - but is also perhaps, probably, a wise elder, already doing the communal consultation thing with other wisos on timing and words and whether I have the right respect to use the info. (Which means working on all this in other aspects of my life, too - family and home). And that, right there, is maybe the first deeper and clarifying lesson: how you write and offer support in the world is a reflection of your being, so how are you being?
You've created it here, and I suspect your listening and deepening comment may play a significant part. Ah, lesson! And we don't have to think about them. Just listen and feel and get on with whatever's happening.
What I wanted to say first up was about your last sentence there - respect your use of And as a powerful and poetic singer of sentences. Seems like an appropriate word for constellating minds.
Very helpful thoughts! My daughter is also Audhd with some pda thrown in and it is a struggle to help her to get motivated too.
I'll have to think some more about how to incorporate these into our family life, too!
Thanks so much for the mention on here!!! The wisdom of our resistance has been such a game changer for me for unshaming and recognizing that there’s always an important, information-filled reason why I’m not doing something, or why it feels hard. 🩵🩵🩵 Thanks for writing this wonderful piece.
Thank you for this, Tina! I’ve learned so much from listening to you and I’m so grateful for your voice in this community ♥️
Yes! I was in an ADHD hack reading frenzy this week, especially around budgeting. I can't believe a single one of those was written from inside ADHD. Not one of them could in any way be effective. Just take a regular mainstream shallow clock time corporate fake ra ra and insert some neuodivergent words and letters. I maybe should be sorry for being so cranky, but I need things to be able to work, and fast, and simply, and with multiple depth and power. You know, like our human minds are meant to work - wild, free, sparking, relaxed. Not domesticated.
Glad to be here. First time I don't feel alone with this in ages
That’s my goal! For us all to feel less alone!
I appreciate your reflection; I sometimes feel like I sound so cheesy when I say “just be kinder to yourself” and I’m so frustrated so often when things don’t work the way I want them to (simple, easy, quick, ready to move on to funner things). But then comments like yours remind me that there’s value in trying to figure out how to let our minds be more free and wild and sparking and relaxed.
Oh wow, I really needed to read this today. I feel constantly slapped with “you simply need to have more compassion for yourself” advice but find that particularly difficult in the depths of my ADHD. Thank you for these tangible ideas to show myself some more kindness 🧡
This is so wonderful to hear, Jessi! I’m glad you found it helpful! It’s still a work in progress for me, too, and probably always will be. One day at a time…
I've actually read your article now. Thanks for putting this together. I've actually been doing the what is it I need things this past week. ( It's quite the survival question, and the question itself took me a while to work out). I realised 2 things: I respond to other people's needs, and in the process grow myself, which in turn can feed others. And I need a team around me for support. Not in a take everything kind of way, but a bouncing ideas and workshopping way. Still the question persists, how to explain that, and work with it as a strategy.
I relate to the team support aspect and I’ve been thinking a lot about who naturally takes on which types of support roles in different contexts (and then how to ask for that support….!)
For me at the moment it's this search for clarity with what I have to offer. This clarity feels like a living idea, one who won't be rushed. Which feels pleasantly snobby at first - all in my own good time, talk to the paw - but is also perhaps, probably, a wise elder, already doing the communal consultation thing with other wisos on timing and words and whether I have the right respect to use the info. (Which means working on all this in other aspects of my life, too - family and home). And that, right there, is maybe the first deeper and clarifying lesson: how you write and offer support in the world is a reflection of your being, so how are you being?
You've created it here, and I suspect your listening and deepening comment may play a significant part. Ah, lesson! And we don't have to think about them. Just listen and feel and get on with whatever's happening.
What I wanted to say first up was about your last sentence there - respect your use of And as a powerful and poetic singer of sentences. Seems like an appropriate word for constellating minds.